He who walks with wise men
will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed. Proverbs 13:20 (NKJV)
by nature a social animal”, asserts Aristotle, he observed that the society
precedes the individual and anyone who cannot lead a common life or is so
self-sufficient not to need to is either a beast or a god. In other words we
all need to be part of an aggregate of
people living together in a more or less ordered community.
In our desired society, the
natural tendency is to blend in because we want or need the benefits of the
society usually expressed in acceptance, interdependence, cooperation etc. This
desire for acceptance is the bedrock of many things we do ranging from the cars
we drive to appearance, language and even our habits.
Our default position is to conform;
therefore you must never underestimate the power of influence. If you wake up in
the morning looking like a combination of your five closest friends, will you
be content? If not, it’s time to make changes.
In the words of Jim Rohn,
there are 3 questions you should always ask yourself; who am I around, what are
they doing to me and is that okay? Chances are you’ll never outrun your
association, at the very best; you’ll make it to the front of the pack. Its
good practice to step out of the queue every now and then, look ahead and make
sure the group is going where you want to go.
You might not be able to
control who is around you, but you can surely control who you chose to be
around. Be intentional about your companionship.
Finally from the words of
the great apostle; do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” 1
I see you walk with the wise, you shall not be destroyed.